The Truth Behind Motivation

The Truth Behind Motivation


What motivates you?

Why do you do the things that you do? What drives you towards achieving a certain goal? I've asked this question of y'all before, but what is your why for doing what you do?

Whatever your goals are, something motivates you to keep moving forward towards them.

Is it your spouse or significant other? Is it an event you have coming up? Is it a certain salary, title, or benefits package? Is it praise from others? Is it self-empowerment? What motivates you?

Regardless of your answer to that question, I've got some news for y'all...

It doesn't really matter.

Obviously, certain motivators are better than others. It's always better to be intrinsically (rather than extrinsically) motivated because that means your motivation and value "come from within." (Which is very sixties, but also right on.) 

However, whether intrinsic or extrinsic, motivation is very hot and cold.

Case in point...I am naturally very intrinsically motivated and always have been. Most days (let's say 60-65% of them), I would do just about anything to achieve my goals. If that means performing my weaker lifts more often, even though they challenge and frustrate me, I'll do it because I want to get stronger. If it means spending more hours at the drawing board to brainstorm business ideas, even when I just want to go to bed, I'll do it because I want to succeed as an entrepreneur.

But there are other days where I have to drag myself out of bed when my alarm goes off at 5am for my morning workout. There are some days where I feel so discouraged by my entrepreneurial venture that I want to go on LinkedIn and start submitting applications because creating something from nothing is really hard.

There are some days where I am just not motivated to do anything more than lie in bed and watch New Girl and wish Nick Miller was my real life best friend and all we had to do was play True American all day. (Wouldn't that be nice...)

It's those kind of days where motivation isn't enough. 

And that's where commitment comes into play.  

On those days when I want to stay tucked in bed all day because the workout is too hard and I don't want to do it or I don't want to spend five hours thinking of new ideas that may never come to fruition, I don't give in! And not because I'm motivated. I'm clearly not. But I am committed. 

I know that struggling through pull-ups is going to frustrate the heck out of me, but I also know it will make me better and stronger. I know that "future me will thank me for it," which is stupid and cheesy, but also true. I don't let the frustration win because I am committed to getting stronger.

I know that brainstorming business ideas is exhausting, time-intensive, and makes me zero dollars per hour. But I also know it will lead to new clients down the road, new content, and I will be a more successful entrepreneur for it. I don't let the dread win because I am committed to making this business work.

Motivation is great and when you feel it, you should capitalize on it! Go conquer your goals. Slay, queens!

But ultimately, because it ebbs and flows so often, you can't rely on motivation alone. 

The truth behind how I stay motivated is this: I don't. But I stay committed. I made a promise to myself that no matter what life throws at me, I won't give up on myself or my dreams. That's the difference between commitment and motivation. 

Commitment is not something you find within yourself. It is a choice. It's a promise. 

Don't wait around for motivation to find you. You will spend a lifetime looking for it. Instead, make a promise to yourself today that each day, you will do something to better yourself. Maybe it's reading for 15 minutes before bed. Maybe it's joining a community group to meet new friends. Maybe it's volunteering with your church. It doesn't have to be a fitness or health goal. Just promise yourself that you will do it. 

"Our lives are a sum of our choices," which means you can choose to let your goals pass you by, or you can choose to do something about them. 

Choose to do something about them and set the world on fire!


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